All I would like for Christmas.
Laura Roscioli is a sex writer based mostly in Melbourne. Her fortnightly column on Fashion Journal is right here to make sex (and the conversations round it) extra accessible and open-minded. She believes that the very best learnings come from lived expertise, and she or he’s right here to share hers — and different individuals’s — with you. You can comply with Laura on Instagram at @lauraroscioli.
2025 has been a sexy 12 months. It was the 12 months I outed my very own pubic hair. The 12 months I went to a sex get together and wrote about it. The 12 months I experimented with handcuffs for the primary time. It was additionally the 12 months I found a few of my favorite sexual wellness merchandise and the individuals behind them. So it feels solely proper to share them with you now, in gifting season.
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Buying presents for the individuals we love might be oddly onerous. It’s like one closing push of creativity earlier than all of us collapse into end-of-year hibernation. But I’ve all the time believed the very best gifts are essentially the most thought of ones, the sort that say, “I see you. I know what you’re curious about. I want to support that”.
This information is for the besties, lovers and companions who love to really feel sexy, keep curious and continue to learn about themselves. Many of those picks are from native manufacturers, too — thoughtfully made, fantastically designed and rooted in care.
A present card for an really sexy grownup retailer
For anybody who has a lover that loves pleasure merchandise, however has by no means discovered an grownup retailer that meets their curiosity and urge for food, permit me to change your life. Tucked into Melbourne’s CBD is likely one of the most stunning brick-and-mortar sex shops of our time: High Tide.
Owned by Melbourne couple Paige Aubort and Søren Poulsen, the nice and cozy, thought of house is designed for exploration, connection and studying. They inventory pleasure merchandise for all our bodies, genders and preferences, together with a few it’s possible you’ll not have realised have been yours.
It’s a really perfect reward for {couples} exploring collectively, anybody wanting to deepen their relationship with pleasure, or just as a romantic gesture that claims: I care about how you are feeling. Name a higher reward than prioritising their pleasure! I’ll wait.
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Comfortable (however nonetheless scrumptious!) lingerie
I’ve all the time beloved lingerie as a reward. To me, it indicators that my lover understands my need to really feel stunning underneath my garments, only for me. There are two native manufacturers I’ve fallen onerous for this previous 12 months.
First is Nala. Melbourne-based and designed with actual our bodies in thoughts, Nala creates lingerie that’s genuinely snug with out sacrificing sex enchantment. Think sheer bralettes and bodysuits in playful colors, all blissfully free from underwire. They’re made utilizing sustainable supplies too, which implies no scratchiness and no irritation, simply items you really need to put on all day and into the evening.
Then there’s Hopeless Lingeriefor while you’re craving one thing extra basic, structured and undeniably sexy. Also based mostly in Melbourne, their expansive vary consists of corsetry, nighties, robes, bodysuits and lingerie for each temper and second. It’s a little on the pricer aspect however it’s exquisitely made, deeply thought of and completely well worth the splurge.
A pair’s assortment for shared exploration
I’m all the time one for a shared reward, one thing that may assist deliver you nearer to your associate and encourage exploration collectively. My favorite model of that this 12 months was The Couples Collection from Australian-based sexual wellness firm Normal, created in collaboration with content material creators, Ben and Jas.
It’s a curated intimacy equipment designed to take the guesswork out of play. Inside you’ll discover a mixture of thoughtfully chosen instruments, together with a bestselling partnered toy, a blindfold, padded cuffs, a crop and tassel, alongside a 10-step problem menu that guides you (from light to spicy) via new methods of touching, teasing and speaking collectively.
Having precise merchandise and actions to assist deliver exploration into the bed room might be past useful in fostering a mixed sexual journey that feels genuine and open. I like that this set feels inclusive and trendy, with smooth, discreet design that steers away from cringe.
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A subscription to well-written erotic literature
For anybody who loves to learn (or write), a subscription to an erotic literature platform is a priceless reward. It presents house to discover need privately, creatively and on one’s personal phrases — tapping into fantasy, curiosity and pleasure via language slightly than efficiency.
My present favorite is Dawn: a female-run platform based by New York–based mostly writer Carly, created from her personal need to specific her sexuality and encourage others to do the identical. Expect sensual, clever and genuinely sexy tales by feminist and LGBTQ+ writers, with items that carry each sexual cost and emotional maturity.
Subscriptions begin at round 9 {dollars} USD for a month (good in order for you to play it secure), or $69 for a full 12 months. Beyond the studying, Aurore additionally presents erotic writing workshops and programs, making this a reward that invitations each consumption and creation.
Be certain to add your electronic mail tackle at first and alter to theirs later in order to not smash the shock. You may even print it out and make a cute little voucher for them to unwrap.
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Conversation playing cards that encourage play
Conversation is all the pieces. Talking about your sexual fantasies, your fears and curiosities has the ability to set you free. Esther Perel is, for my part, the goddess of dialog (particularly when it comes to sex and intimacy), which is why her now-infamous card sport ‘Where Should We Begin?’ is actually finest in school.
Designed to encourage conversations, connection and play, these playing cards information you thru a few of the most attention-grabbing and essential conversations of your life. Having used them in my very own life and relationship, they’ve opened up conversations of sexual experiences we’d love to do collectively and individually… a few of which we’ve now carried out!
I typically really feel that the reward of an expertise is essentially the most treasured of all and these playing cards just do that, whereas additionally supplying you with the potential to broaden not solely inside your relationship, however inside your self.
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A lube that places pleasure (and ease) first
We’re lastly dwelling in an period the place utilizing lube is a utterly shame-free expertise thanks largely to manufacturers like The Department of Bed Intentionswhich, for my part, make the very best water-based lubricant in the marketplace. Not solely does it look stunning and are available totally sustainable packaging, it genuinely feels good to use and is sensible for delicate pores and skin.
Sex has such a highly effective relationship with each stress and sleep. When we’re having extra sex, we have a tendency to sleep higher. When sex feels difficult, awkward or loaded with stress, stress creeps in. Bed Intentions’ ethos is centred on easing these tensions, eradicating any destructive feelings round lube, and reframing it as a substitute as one thing playful and supportive
This is a reward that prioritises consolation, connection and calm, inviting a softer, extra relaxed bed room expertise that’s free from disgrace and filled with risk. Sometimes the sexiest factor you possibly can supply is ease.
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A scent that feels extra intimate than fragrance
Don’t simply purchase them fragrance this 12 months, purchase them Don Juan 1973. Crafted (and solely lately launched) by Melbourne-based model Witchthis luxurious physique oil blends oud with pheromones to create a scent designed to draw out your inside sensuality.
It smells wealthy and undeniably premium. Since proudly owning a bottle, I’ve worn it on daily basis with out fail, one way or the other feeling sexier every time. It’s genuinely scrumptious to placed on. You know that indulgent ritual of dousing your self in one thing divine smelling earlier than leaving the home? This is that. It makes you are feeling costly.
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